Monthly Archives: June 2012

The Ramblings of a Married Couple

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Sometimes Hubby and I have conversations that make me laugh when I think about them later on.  It’s mainly because the sheer nonsense and redundancy of the conversation.  For example here is one we had today;

 

“Are you making dinner tonight?” hubby asks.

“Yes,”  I answer. “Are we going to Ribfest tomorrow after my run?”

“I don’t really want to.  I think it starts around 11 and it’s going to be hot has hell.  And it’s going to be expensive.”

“Ok, I’ll just take Princess myself even if it’s just to go on rides.  I refuse to stay in for another long weekend.”

Hubby is shocked. “So what? I am to bring her and watch until your done then just go home by myself?”

“Well you don’t want to go, I do.  What other solution is there?”  I was confused by his shock.  He said he doesn’t want to go, so I say that he doesn’t have to and now he’s upset.  Confusing at first, but hilarious now.  “Listen, I don’t want to stay long, but I want her to go on some rides, maybe eat some ribs and cotton candy and then head home.”

“Ok.  I just don’t want to stand in the sun all day,” he sighs.  “And just so you know, it’s going to be hot as (insert expletive).”

“Ok thanks!  Oh and by the way, I wanna do glow-in-the-dark bubbles with the Princess.”

And as quickly as the battle for plans began, it ended with glow-in-the-dark bubbles.  That is how most of our arguments go, however sometimes they are solved with Rock, Paper, Scissors and I’m being serious.  It’s fair, up to fate and always best two out of three!

 

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I’m quite tired of these “Teen Mom’s”

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Have any of you ever seen the show “Teen Mom”, “Teen Mom 2” or “16 & Pregnant”?  I have and those are moments I will never get back.  I know the “premise” if that’s what you want to call it, is to show the “harsh” realities of teen parenting, but I actually think it’s had quite the opposite effect.  In just 2 seasons of the show, 2 of the mom’s are either in jail, or have been arrested, 1 is on her second marriage, 1 overdosed on prescription pain pills and 1 set of parent’s lost custody due to extreme neglect and fecal matter being all over the house.  Now you would think that most girls would have the common sense to say “No way! I’m not having children until I’m ready.”  But there has been some teens that have come out and said that they got pregnant just so they could get onto the show.  And really, who could blame them?  With these girls gracing the covers of magazines, making thousands of dollars for photos, Facebook pages with over 310 K followers and great cars, hair and nails, that is more of a draw than prison photos.  So you tell me, which photo looks more appealing?

Would you rather this one?

OR

Or this one?

I am 26, in a committed relationship, my hubby and I both work full-time jobs, receive no government assistance, no daycare subsidy and we rent our own home.  I don’t have a TV show that follows my every move.  I get no world-wide adoration from prepubescent teens for me being a mom.  I made a choice to carry a child and it is my personal belief, that if you make that decision, that you SOLELY are responsible.

Please understand that I come from a small town that breeds “babies for paychecks”.  And when I say this, I’m not exaggerating, it is RAMPANT there.  There are streets, and numerous ones that are all women and children living off the system.  Now don’t get me wrong, I believe that there should welfare, but there should be restrictions and limitations.  Living your entire life on the system is NOT ok.  Having babies just so you don’t have to work is NOT ok.  I believe it should be there for parents who have many children and their spouse dies or takes off without any notice.  It is meant to help you through a time of dire need.  Not because you don’t want to help yourself.  There are woman who spend their government cheques on frivolous items while their children starve.  But yet, they still get to keep their children and still receive cheques.  And some of these women just keep having babies.  And just with any man.  Isn’t choosy, just whomever will sow their seed.  And the sad thing is, it’s the children that suffer.  And that is what infuriates me.  Many of these kids grow up to perpetuate the cycle, because this is all they have every known.  These children didn’t ask to be born, didn’t ask to be put into impoverished situations and be neglected.  Again, let me reiterate that not every woman with children on welfare is like this, there are some that truly need it and I support that, but where I am from, the women that have babies for paychecks, it’s more common than hiccups.

I understand what it is like to be a hormonal teenage, I was one after all.  But there are options.

  1. Abstinence.  I know this is often easier said than done, but so is parenting.
  2. Contraception.  If you are ready to have sex, you can get free condoms from health clinics and a box of contraception can range from $12 – $30 for birth control.  Now, if you cannot afford contraception, then you certainly cannot afford children.
  3. Adoption.  There are many families that can provide a life for your child when you cannot.  Just because you “want” a child and “can” procreate, doesn’t always mean you “should”.
  4. Abortion.  While this may not be for everyone, it is an option.

Like I have said repeatedly, I believe in a welfare system, but I don’t agree with it being so viciously abused.  I think the Canadian Welfare System needs to be overhauled.  For example, you should only be allowed to be on it for so long.  In that time, the Government should help you with accessing resources like job training, and other things that will help you get onto your feet.  They should lay the path, but it is up to the individual to walk it.  There are no free rides and having a child isn’t your ticket.  If you wish to be lazy and not work, then do not drag a child into it.  I’ve been poor and under the poverty line.  I didn’t go onto Welfare.  I got another job.  I cut out needless expenses.  I made responsible choices.

I also feel bad for the generation of 40, 50 & 60 something’s that are now raising their grandchildren.  They did not work all their life just to be burdened with the financial strain of children that are not theirs.  And maybe these celebrity “Teen Mom’s” wouldn’t be so famous if we didn’t watch their shows, or buy the magazines they  are one.  If we don’t care about what show they are on, they won’t be on one.

*Sorry ahead of time for the rant, but I was so infuriated by that Magazine cover.  Again, when I talk about parent’s on welfare, I’m directing those comments to the one’s who abuse the system, not the one’s who need it.*

Did the Judge go too Far?

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I was on Yahoo today and saw an article about a 13-year-old girl who lured a 3-year-old at a McDonald’s in Utah and cut her hair.  Now the Judge in the case gave her 30 days in a detention centre and 276 hours of community service.  However, the Judge told the mother that if she cut her daughter’s hair in the courtroom, he would shave off 150 hours.  The mother did it and has now filed a complaint because she felt “intimidated” by him.  She’s also stating that her daughter was strip searched at the detention centre and now cannot sleep by herself and cries often.  The girl’s 11-year-old accomplice also had to have her hair cut, but she was allowed to go to the salon.  The 13-year-old, Kaytlen Lopan, claims that it was the accomplice, not her that cut the hair.  However, Miss Lopan is also in trouble due to some prank related grievances against another girl.

Now when I saw this article a few things came to mind.  Firstly, at 13, I would never have pulled a stunt like this.  Not only is it wrong to wrong a child, but the sheer fear of my parents was enough to keep my on the straight and narrow.   As my parents would so graciously say, “my butt would never see the light of day again.”  By the sounds of this case, this mother has very little control over her daughter’s behaviour as this is the SECOND time she’s been in trouble with the law, but the nerve of Miss Lopan.  Why would you cut a little girls’ hair?  What purpose would that serve?  I highly doubt the 3-year-old attacked and triggered the attack.

Secondly, as a mother, if my Princess ever, ever, everrr, lured a little girl away from her parents and cut her hair, not only would she be grounded until she died, she would have to apologize to this little girl and her parents, I would make her volunteer at a hair salon sweeping her hair, and finally I would shave her head.  Drastic, I know.  But so is cutting a little girl’s hair maliciously.

I have a few choice words for this mother.  I think by her filing this complaint against the judge sets a poor example for her daughter.  The mother agreed to cutting the hair.  Now, if you genuinely thought your daughter was innocent, would you really cut her hair?  People have choices.  She could have said no and made her daughter work the full amount of hours.  But she CHOSE to cut it to get her daughter to work less and now she’s complaining.  And as for the girl saying she was scared, I hope she was scared.  Those detention centres are not meant to be five-star hotels.  They are meant to teach lessons.  Lessons like cutting a little girls hair is not OK.  I think by the mother letting her go lightly is only teaching her daughter that it is ok to do this stuff, because in the end, her mom will try to get her off.  If it were my daughter, her hair would be cut and she would work and serve every minute she was sentenced to.  People make choices.  But there are consequences to those choices.  It’s a life lesson.

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I’ve discovered something about myself in recent years. I’m a wuss. I don’t think of myself that way, but every fourth of July I have to admit I’m a coward when the fireworks come out. I cringe and duck, I worry the whole time about burns, I watch every spark to see where it lands and if it’s going to start a fire, I struggle the whole time to not plug my ears and I am secretly glad when they are over.  I do not enjoy fireworks. But, I really really really enjoy taking pictures of them.  They combine all my favorite things in one picture: the joy and excitement of my children experiencing something memorable, family interactions as loved ones gather together, and interesting light that lets me get creative and experiment with settings.

When taking pictures of fireworks, you need to remember a few things:

1. Your light…

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My Bucket List

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I said that 2012 would be my year, so it’s time for me to get my rear end in gear and get some things done!  I have created my bucket list of things I want to do before I die.  I will periodically be adding things as new and interesting things come up and hopefully crossing things off throughout the years.  What’s on your bucket list?

Things to do in Toronto for Canada Day

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One of the perks of living in a major city is that there is always lots of fun-filled things to do with the family, especially on a long weekend.  Here are just a few things that you and the family can enjoy this Canada Day!

  1. Toronto Ribfest.   A personal favourite of mine, this combines two of my choice pastimes; eating and carnival rides.  With a selection of 16 rib vendors, live music, shopping, fireworks, carnival rides & games, this is sure to be great time for the whole family.  Running from the 29th to the 2nd, from 11 am – 11 pm, its sure to be a good time!
  2. Canada Day Celebrations at Woofjocks.  If you are a dog lover, than this is for you.  Located at The Pet Discovery Centre at 245 Queen’s Quay West where there will be demo’s of canine sports.  Best of all, admission is free!
  3. Canada Day at Queen’s Park.   A tradition dating back to 1967, celebrating Canada Day at Queen’s Park kicks off on July 1st at noon with the 21-Gun salute.  Food, entertainment, ride and activities for kids, youth and adults!
  4. Canada Day at Fort York.  Come celebrate Canada Day and the bicentennial of the War of 1812.  There are fun activities for the kids, like singing and dancing with songs from the 1812, writing letters to the children of 2212, scavenger hunts and crafts.  From 10 – 5 on July 1st at the Fort York National Historic Site.  Admission is free.
  5. Canada Day at High Park.  From 12 – 4:30, learn all there is to learn about Canada Day, The War of 1812 and the founding of High Park itself.  Admission is free.
  6. The Red, White & Vinyl Festival.  Vinyl 95.3 is hosting the third annual Red, White & Vinyl festival at Woodbine Park.  With all-Canadian line up, Family Fun Zone, Disco Party and the fireworks from Ashbridges Bay, rain or shine, this event is sure to go out with a bang!
  7. Canada Day Sweet’s Tour. Take a stroll in the Kensington Market for a Canadian Culinary tasty tour where you can sample our national sweet treats like butter tarts and maple syrup!  With a guided tour, samples and sweets, how can you go wrong!
  8. For a full list of events, check out Toronto4Kids.com.

 

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