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5 New Things That Surprised Me After Giving Birth

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When I first started writing this blog, I had wrote a post on 5 things that surprised me after giving birth to my daughter.  They included what my stomach looked like, people asking if she was a boy or a girl and a few others.  So when I gave birth to my son, I thought “Hey, I know what it will be like.”  Wrong-O!  Like every pregnancy is different, every post-pregnancy is different too.  So here are my new 5 Things That Surprised Me After Giving Birth.

  1. My Skin.  All throughout my pregnancy with the Rainbow, my skin was perfect.  Nary a blemish to be had.  As soon as he graced us with his presence, my skin went haywire.  I started breaking out in full on teenage zits.  Every day there would be new ones and I would be saying “What the hell is going on.” Turns out, hormones are to blame and my doctor said once we stop breastfeeding it will all clear up.
  2. My Hair.  After my daughter was born, hair fell out.  I could run my fingers through it and cat sized hair clumps would be in my hands.  My stylist said that was normal so I this time I braced myself for the inevitable hair loss.  Nope.  This time my hair didn’t fall out.  It went greasy beyond belief.  Need oil for your car? Not to worry, come take some from my hair free of charge.  Again pesky hormones are to blame.
  3. Weight Loss.  I gained a whopping 40 lbs with my daughter and lets just say I still have that baby weight hanging on like a bad boyfriend.  However, with my son, I was back to my pre-pregnancy weight within a week.  Granted I only gained approximately 10 lbs with him but I lost it fairly easily and quickly.
  4. My Appetite.  After my daughter was born, I found my appetite diminished.  Perhaps because I was adjusting to life as a new Mom that I barely remembered to eat.  The complete opposite with my son.  Good Lord, as soon as I gave birth I was begging for food.  I have never been so damned hungry before in my life.  All day I am hungry.  If I don’t eat, I get what I like to call “hangry.” A cranky mix of hungry and angry.  I chalk it up to breastfeeding a very hungry little boy.  Breastfeeding can burn up to 800 calories a day so I am blaming the increased appetite on that.
  5. The Recovery Time of a Second C-Section.  I’ve had 2 c-sections and I was luckily given advice from my aunt that post surgery, try to get up and stand straight up as soon as possible.  With my daughter, it took my a least a month to be feeling somewhat normal.  My scar took forever to heal, but I only had 1 baby to worry about so my days were fairly easy going. When I had my son though, I was feeling back to normal within 10 days.  The nurses gave me grief at the hospital because I had my surgery at midnight and by noon I was asking them to unhook me and let me get up and move around.  Generally for a c-section you have to stay 3 days in the hospital, I was released after 1 day.  I was still slow moving the first week, but I was healed up by that Friday.  It still sucked going from laying down to standing up for about a week, but with my second c-section, I was up and going pretty quick.  I think it was because I had 2 children to chase after.
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Ankyloglossia, Now There’s a Tongue Tie For You

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Image from newborns.stanford.edu

Image from newborns.stanford.edu

Trust me, when I first said Ankyloglossia, it was a slow drawn-out process, with me stumbling through the sounds until I finally got it.  Before Rainbow was born, I hadn’t a clue what it was, because I knew it by another term; Tongue-Tied.  And Rainbow was born with it.  Ankyloglossia, or tongue-tied, is a congenital oral anomaly where the lingual frenulum connects the underside of the tongue to the bottom of the mouth.  Cases of tongue tie can range from mild to complete.  Rainbow had the latter.

Prior to his birth, we had no inkling that he would be born with it, I mean how could we, they don’t do scans of inside the mouth.  And it wasn’t until our discharge day that we even found out.  Now a bit of a back story, Hubby was born with a partial tongue, a mild case which he had cut when he was little over a year.  Neither of us thought that it would be present in our children as no other family members had it.  It was just one of those things.

When the Rainbow was first born, the pediatricians examined him and then placed him in Hubby’s arm while I was being stitched up.  It wasn’t until we got to the recovery room and him and I did the skin to skin and began to nurse that I knew something wasn’t ‘right’.  I breastfed the Princess for 6 months with absolutely NO problems.  She latched immediately, was a scheduled nurser and weaned very easily.  It was my favourite part of being a mother to a baby.  I loved that closeness and I couldn’t wait to have that again with Rainbow.  He suckled for a very long time his first time and it felt awkward and uncomfortable.  I adjusted his position numerous times and still it didn’t feel how it felt with the Princess.  I didn’t say anything to the nurse because I thought, “Hey, every baby is different.”

But then I began to feel flicking when he nursed and then after he was done, I was covered in deep purple bruises.  Then after a few more feeds came the blood and scabs.  It was then that I asked the nurse for help.

“Listen, I breastfed my daughter, but this just isn’t feeling right.  Can you help me?” I asked.

The nurses did just that, helped set him up and gave me extra pillows.  Still the Rainbow wouldn’t latch properly and it began to hurt more and more.  I asked the nurse if there was a lactation consultant available on the ward that would be able to come talk with us.  I began to second guess myself.  Had I not done this 4 years ago?  I didn’t have any problems then, why can’t I do it now?

On our discharge day, the lactation consultant came in, took Rainbow to examine his mouth.

“Yes, I know the problem,” she said.  “He’s tongue-tied.”

I was baffled and Hubby and I exchanged looks.  Well, at least we know who he got it from.  She then opened his mouth to show us.  She informed us that it was a complete tie that would require a cut as the tip of his tongue was completely attached to the bottom of his mouth.  Rainbow wasn’t able to stick his tongue out and draw my breast into his mouth therefore not getting the proper latch.  She then told us that most hospitals and doctors like to wait until the child is older and have a full procedure involving anaesthesia and for the children to be completely under.  However, a hospital in the East end of Toronto could do a similiar procedure, a simple in and out, without any drugs.  We had asked if it was such a simple procedure then why would certain doctors want it to be a drawn out process.  She informed us that some doctors think that the tongue will stretch out on its own and if you can bottle feed then there are other feeding options besides breastfeeding.  She also let us know that children with tongue tie are more likely to be delayed in speaking, some can’t speak at all until it’s cut and speech impediments are very common.  Frankly, it kind of seemed to me that if they made them have the surgery, it was more of a money-making thing than anything else.  In the meantime, she showed us the football hold that would be easier on him and me.

The lactation consultant called the breastfeeding clinic in the east end and set up our appointment.  We were discharged on a Tuesday and the day procedure would be done that Thursday.  And in those few days, it was a challenge.  Now the picture below shows what breastfeeding is supposed to look and feel like.

Now this is what it felt like for me breastfeeding a boy with a complete tongue-tie.

It was hands down the most painful experience beside giving birth of course.  I would be nursing my baby boy and wailing the entire time.  He would come unlatched and his mouth would be red with blood from me and pieces of skin on his lips.  Hubby got up and brought me a bottle of formula to give him.  Then I started to cry even harder.  I wanted to breastfeed my son, no questions asked, but I knew that I was in pain and I was concerned he wasn’t getting enough food because he couldn’t latch properly.  I was getting the “breast is best” guilt from all sides.  The lactation consultants, friends, family, doctors, nurses, you name it, I was getting it.  Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all for breastfeeding, but I was also put in a situation where I had to supplement.  Hubby and I were tracking his pees and poops, his feeds and how long and would offer 1 ounce of formula a day to ensure he was getting enough to eat and to give my poor mangled lady bits a break.  I was crying to my friend about the guilt I was feeling and she said this gem to me;

“Just imagine how much guilt people would give you if you starved him to death?”

That was enough to make me relax and be comfortable in my decision to supplement.

Finally Thursday rolled around and we arrived at Toronto East General Hospital and registered.  We were whisked into the breastfeeding clinic and were consulted with a lactation consultant and RN.  They witnessed our feedings and noticed the poor latch and my pain.  They then paged the pediatric surgeon.  We made the journey upstairs to the pediatric floor and answered the necessary questions.  The surgeon asked me if I wanted to stay in the room with Hubby while they did it.  I held Hubby’s hand but looked towards the wall.  They hadn’t even began the procedure and Rainbow began to cry and so did I.  The surgeon said it was probably best if I left the room.  So out I went and cried in the hall.  I could hear my little man wailing and all I wanted to do was run in and say “Stop hurting my baby.”  They brought him out, his mouth red with blood and we were sent back down to the clinic to breastfeed as it stops the bleeding.  The surgeon did advise us that he had a very thick tie and he may likely need to have further surgery as he gets older by an ENT specialist.  She showed us some exercises to do with him to get him to stretch out his tongue.

Hubby waited outside the clinic and the poor RN acted as my therapist as I cried and breastfed my son.  I was glad that I could finally feed him but felt so bad he had been in pain.  But now that him and I are able to enjoy feedings now, I knew I made the right decision.  The procedure was done without medication however, back in the days where women gave birth at home, Midwives would keep their pinky fingernail longer than the rest so she could simply cut the tie when the baby was born.  Eeek!

Sometimes feeds are painful and it takes some time for proper latches, it is much much better than before.  I know that if we didn’t have the procedure done, I would have ultimately given up on breastfeeding.

How To Save Money When Buying Baby Stuff

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It comes to no surprise that having children can be expensive.  It is estimated that to raise a child from birth to 18 (before university) can cost $243,660.  Now that Hubby and I are expecting our first son, the need to start buying baby supplies.  We were VERY fortunate to be given lots of gifts which ultimately limited the amount we had to buy for the Princess.  We are now fully aware of the true costs, both up front and hidden, and are prepping for the arrival of our Rainbow.   Here are just a few ways to save money on the initial costs.

  1. Buy on Sale.  Seems pretty obvious but some people leave shopping to the last-minute and end up paying full price on things that routinely go on sale.  Monitor stores that carry the items you are looking for and watch for them to go on sale.
  2. Coupons.  There are many sites that you can sign up for coupons that are mailed to your home.  In Canada, it’s much harder to Extreme Coupon but you are still able to save money on things such as diapers, clothes and baby wash.  Many of these same sites will send you free samples.  Also, feel free to email your favourite brands directly.  I LOVE Johnson & Johnson products and wrote to the manufacturer explaining that I really love their products and in response, they sent me free high-priced coupons as well as a voucher for a free pack of their assorted products.  The worst thing they can say is no and at the best, you receive free products and coupons.  Also, to maximize on the savings, apply coupons to items that are on sale.
  3. Baby Item Swaps.  As Mommy’s and Daddy’s, we have a group of fellow parents who like us, keep our baby stuff “just in case” we come to expect another baby.  So why not capitalize on free stuff while making room in your closets.  A friend of mine is expecting a girl and only has boys and I am expecting a boy and was elbow deep in girl stuff, so we met up and did a swap.  We were able to trade items at no cost.  A little piece of advice, don’t include clothes that are stained or torn.
  4. Donation Parties.  In lieu of baby showers, a new trend is Donation Parties.  Women who are expecting make a list of the things that they need and ask close friends and family who have baby stuff and go through the list and see who is willing to give you which items.  This may not be for everyone, and that is why it is best to only invite people who you are VERY close with and not your neighbour whom you only see occasionally.
  5. EBay or Kijiji.  These online sites are great for purchasing baby items at a lower cost.  Babies and children grow really fast and only wear items for a short period so most of the clothes are in great condition.  Be aware of what you are buying and ensure that it is the correct season for your child.  Also, ask to see pictures and know if the items come from pet or smoke free homes.  I wouldn’t recommend buying certain items, but clothing is usually pretty safe.  Be sure to wash it before you put it on your baby.
  6. Buy What You Need, Not Want.  You can find lists in every parenting magazine of things that you “NEED” for your little one.  Everyone would love those wipe warmers and new fangled gadgets, but your baby doesn’t need them and more often than not, they are money traps.  When we brought the Princess home, I dressed her in dress clothes, and what a disaster.  I have learned that less is more.  Sleepers and onesies are the best clothes in the first few months of life.  Babies eat, poop, sleep and repeat and do not care what they are wearing.  They have no preference for which items get stained in their latest diaper assault.
  7. Keep Stock of What You Already Have.  If you already have children, keeping essential items is always a great money saver.  Hubby and I kept our crib, breast pump, glass bottles, play pen and bedding (as it is gender neutral).  Do keep an eye on certain items that may be too old such as car seats as they expire after 5 years.

I’ve Got Great News!

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I’ve got great news, my sister is going to be a first-time Mommy and that means I’m going to be an Auntie!  I am so happy and excited.  My Princess was the first grand baby on both sides and has been spoiled by her extended family.  Princess has a cousin now on her Dad’s side as her uncle and aunt gave birth to their little girl earlier this year.  Now she will have another cousin to add to her family.

When Princess was born, my sister’s and I came up with nicknames that our future children would call us.  My sisters are Auntie Mimi and Auntie Mo Mo to Princess and then it came to be my turn.  My name doesn’t start with “M” like my sister’s names do so what would I be called? Auntie Ca Ca, no I don’t think so.  Aunt Coco?  No thank you, reminds me too much of Ice T’s wife.  I prefer Auntie Cici, but my sister, in all her humour, wants Aunt Char Char Binks.  I am not a fan at all.

I am excited to see her belly and to feel the baby kick.  I like that our children will be able to play with one another.  We always grew up around our cousins and I want that for Princess.  I really want to live closer to my sister so that our children can see each other on a frequent basis and so that I can help out my sister as she helped me.  My sister watched Princess for a week while Hubby had surgery and even came to Toronto to watch her for a few days when we were in the middle of looking for daycare after our Nanny robbed her piggy bank.  I know she’ll be a fantastic mother and her hubby will be a great dad.  I’m so happy for them and cannot wait to hold their baby and my niece/nephew for the first time.