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Harvest Soup

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I had the day off today from work and the Princess’ class was making Harvest Soup and was short on volunteers.  I don’t get many days off from work so I was glad to be able to help out.  I wasn’t quite sure what to expect as it’s been a while since I’ve been in kindergarten and Princess is my first child.  I walked in to see the entire class sitting on the floor listening to the teacher.   Everything seemed quiet and peaceful.  That didn’t last.  Myself, another Mother, the Teacher and the Early Childhood Educator were each assigned 6 children.  Chaos ensued.  I asked the children that were in my group to each go pick a vegetable of their choice.  It was not long before I had a majority of the vegetables on the very small table.  We were given a bowl of water to wash the veggies.  Within moments, water and vegetables were being thrown everywhere and being eaten.  I tried to cut the vegetables while minding the knife.  Never have I been so nervous in my life.  I kept reminding them that knives were sharp and because I was the grown up that I would do the cutting and then they could take the cut veggies and put them into the crock pot.

Soon the kids attention spans had flown out the window and the clean up began.  I have a new respect for kindergarten teachers.  The volume of the classroom was outrageous and they must go home with a headache everyday.  Meltdowns were in full swing, fights over play stations and there were kids going to the bathroom with the door wide open.  There is only one word to describe what I saw and that is INSANITY!  The teacher admitted to the other mother and I that they are not liking the full day kindergarten.  She admitted that instead of teaching, it feels more like crowd control.  I have to say that it was interesting to watch the Princess interact in a school setting.  She really enjoyed the science centre and preferred to play alone as opposed with others.  While I was shocked by it all, I hope that I am able to help out more often because I do want to play an active role in the Princess’ education and school.

Just One of Those Days

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Today has been one of those days where I am doubting my parenting choices.   Every little choice, decision, point, etc has been called into question but probably none more so than our decision to put Princess into Junior Kindergarten.  To put it bluntly, our Princess is not adjusting very well and we have seen backward steps in almost all areas of her development; behaviour, sleeping, eating as well as using the potty.   We had been under the assumption that these issues were contained to home as her teacher and ECE said nothing to alarm us of the contrary.  I had spoken to them prior to orientation night and everything was jovial.  “She is so popular, she is such a character, oh she plays with everyone” and so on and so forth was what we were told at Orientation night.  However, literally the next day, I picked our Princess up from the Principal’s office.  Never in a million years did I think that would happen.  Upon talking to her teacher, she’s been having behavioural problems at school since the very beginning.  The teacher thinks the behaviour is out of jealousy but we have until the end of October to correct it our they will be removing her from school.

I listened attentively, taking in all that was said and pondering how this had been happening and nothing was said to us.  We asked our daughter everyday how she was liking school and everyday it was the same “I like it, my day was good.”  Hubby was upset for two reasons; 1)that Princess was getting into trouble and 2) that over the numerous times that we spoke to her teacher, nothing was said until that Friday.  If something was a consistent, ongoing problem, why not bring it to us sooner so that we could have nipped it in the bud earlier?  Now we are seeing the repercussions of her actions.  Hubby and I do not condone poor behaviour so Princess had to accept and deal with the consequences of her actions.  She was grounded from TV, all her toys were taken away, she is going to be earlier and no special treats.  We had a big conversation about respecting personal boundaries.  We also set up a reward system for good behaviour.  For each day she behaved, she would get to pick one of her toys back.  So far, we have only had good days and her teacher telling me that she has been improving.  But while she has been having good days, I have noticed a change in her and I’m not liking it.  Her confidence and out-going personality has taken a back burner and I now have a very subdued and insecure little girl.

I know that I am her mother and of course I think she is truly amazing, but many other people have said how much they adore her too.  She will talk with anyone, regardless of religion, colour or creed, loves to play with all children regardless of age or sex, and loves to help people.  Her teachers at daycare cried when she left and her friends there had their parents call us to set up playdates because their children missed her too much.  A friend of mine hates children, but she adores the Princess for her outgoing personality.  She is a good girl, I swear, but school has changed her.  Today I witnessed how alone she really is.  Today we were waiting in line to go into school when another little girl came up behind her.  The Princess said good morning and politely asked her mother if said little girl could come over to our home to play.  Perhaps it was because I was standing back that the mother felt compelled to say what she really thought, thinking I was not in earshot.  The mother matter-of-factly said “No, she doesn’t like you.”  I gasped.  I couldn’t believe it.  A simple “maybe another day” would have sufficed, but was it necessary to point out to a 3-year-old that your daughter doesn’t like her?  As more children lined up, my Princess sat quietly in the corner and spoke to no one, her hands holding up her sad face.  I cried all the way home.  My little girl has gone from having lots of friends to none.  She has gone from being vivacious and witty, to sullen and withdrawn.  I have seen her apologize to her family that calls to speak with her and having her ask me over and over again “Mommy, am I going to be kicked out of school?”

And now the question that is wracking my brain is “Did I make the right decision by putting her in school?   I have been weighing the pro’s and con’s to said decision and whether or not pulling her out is a good idea either.

KEEPING HER IN SCHOOL

PRO’S

  • She will learn that even if something is hard and tough, she has the inner strength to stick it out and flourish
  • Her education is very important
  • Even though she isn’t making friends right now, she will make them soon enough

CON’S

  • Low self-esteem and self-worth are a possibility
  • She’s unhappy
  • She is lonely

PULLING HER OUT OF SCHOOL

PRO’S

  • She will be able to start fresh in one more year
  • She will be more mature and better prepared
  • She will get one more year at home with me

CON’S

  • She will think that quitting will solve her problems
  • They will expect more from her next year and the pressure will be greater
  • She will miss out on all the things she will get to experience this year

 

I feel a tremendous amount of guilt for putting her in school in the first place.  I really thought she was ready.  She is potty trained, had 2 1/2 years of socialization with children her age and teachers, she met all her milestones and was ecstatic about going.  I tell her every night how beautiful, special, kind and nice person she is and that even though things are tough right now, they won’t always be this way, and that things will get better.  Right now, I just have to figure out what is best for my Princess.

And I Bawled Like a Baby!

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Today, I wept and wept outside my daughter’s school.  The day started off like any other, except she wasn’t going to daycare, she was going to school.  I know that we have been preparing for this day all summer, but I was not ready this morning.  I picked out her first-day outfit, packed her lunch last night and still this morning I was a testy, cranky mess.  Hubby kept smiling at me like I was the cutest thing for being so emotional, but I had to keep going into another room to stop myself from blubbering.

We all walked to school, hand in hand and waited at the front for her teacher to come and get her.  There was a bit of confusion as they JK classes were split into 3 classes and there were two little girls with Princess’ name but after some time, we finally found her class.  She met her teacher, she sat on her bench and we gave her final hugs and kisses.  Hubby and I started down the hall when we gave one final last look back only to see her watching us walk away.  That was it.  This Mommy broke into tears, and big blubbering mess was I.  Hubby put his arm around me and lead me out the door so I wouldn’t run back and scoop her up and bring her home.

The minutes didn’t go by as fast as I wished they could and when I finally got to pick her up, her arms were stretched out to hug me.  The teacher said she had a great day and when we got home, I checked her lunch bag and without fail, everything except the fruits & veggies were eaten.

My Big Girl Starts School Tomorrow

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Tomorrow will mark a new chapter in our lives.  My baby is now a big girl and officially starts school tomorrow.  No longer will I be running off to drop her off at daycare.  I will lead her to her new school, her backpack and lunch in tow and have to let go of her hand and watch her pass through the doors.  Tonight while making her lunch, I broke down and cried.  I know she’s ready, but I’m not.  It seems like a lifetime, but it was only 4 years ago when I moved to Toronto and was 7 months pregnant, and now my baby is a big girl.

A New Milestone

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My little Princess

Our family reached a new milestone today.  We received our Welcome Package to Junior Kindergarten this morning and as of September, Princess will be in full-day school.  While I am so proud and excited for her, I’m also sad.  My baby is growing up before my eyes and I just want to hold her and hug her and tell her how much I love her.  In the short 3 1/2 years since the day she was born,

I have been there for her first poop, step, word, doctor’s appointment, boo boo, vacation, laugh, sentence, and nightmare.  I birthed her from my body, nursed her at my breast, rocked her in my arms, wiped away her tears and now I will have to let go of her hand as she goes to school.

I am so very proud of the little girl she has grown into.  She is very much the light and joy in me and her father’s lives, and we are so thankful to have her.  After everything we have come through in the last 3 years, I don’t know if we could have done it without her smile, voice and presence.  She took 2 twenty-something’s and turned us into parents, adults, and better people.  While I am crying whilst writing this before leaving for work, they are not just tears of sadness, but tears of joy.  My baby is now a big girl.

My Big Girl

Teaching your Child the ABC’s

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In order to start kindergarten on the right foot, it is recommended that children should have a grasp on their ABC’s, numbers and their colours.  While I admit that Princess knows her numbers and colours, her knowledge of the alphabet is where she is struggling the most.  I have purchased flash cards and work books for her to do over the summer before she starts school in the fall.

Reusable Workbooks

I found these 2 books at a bookstore and they only cost $2.67 each.  I had bought books in the past that were not reusable and eventually the cost adds up.  These books are reusable so the one time cost is great.  All you need is a marker and the learning never stops!

 

 

 

 

Writing Placemat

Another great item that we have is a Melissa & Doug placemat.  This can be used to clean up after dinner and when waiting for dessert, your little one can use a pencil and learn how to trace their letters.  A simple wipe with a damp cloth removes the marks and you are already to go again.

 

 

 

JustMommies.com has come with a top 10 list of creative ways to help teach your young one their ABC’s.  Whether its singing the ABC song, playing the ABC game or many helpful toys and books, the knowledge of ABC’s will be sure to help your children once they start school