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Was Jennifer Livingston Really Bullied?

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Jennifer Livingston has become an internet sensation for calling out a viewer who wrote her an email calling out her weight and responsibility as a role model due to her notoriety.  Everyone joined in a round of applause for Livingston defending herself.  October is National Anti-Bullying Month and how fitting was it that just in time, this became world-wide news.  Now my question is, was she really bullied?  Or did Kenneth Krause make a poor judgement call and say something jerkish?  I may become grossly unpopular for saying this, but I don’t think this is national, local or international news, nor was Ms. Livingston bullied.  Was she on the receiving end of a rude email, yes.  Was she bullied, not even in the slightest.

BULLY: a blustering, quarrelsome, overbearing person who habitually badgers and intimidates smaller or weaker people.

By that definition, Livingston was not bullied.  She is not weak, she has the confidence to get on television every night and she herself said that when she first received the email, she laughed it off.  Call me cynical, but I really believe that this was a media ploy.  Krause admitted that he sent the email and was apologetic and said that would have revised his email had he known how it would have hurt her.  Should he have sent the email, no.  Was it a jerky thing to do, yes.  Is he a bully, not even in the slightest.  He sent her 1 email and then apologized for the hurt it caused.  For any of you that have been bullied, myself included, know that bullies do not stop with one  insult.  They are a like a ravaging disease that will not stop unless treated or until they have defeated every bit of you.  They are not remorseful, they do not care, they do not apologize.  This one incident has blown into a full-scale media frenzy when all could have been resolved with either pushing ‘delete’ or saying what she said on air in an email to Krause.  Problem solved.  Instead she rallied the world to her defense to persecute the sender of the email.  Now which is more bullying behaviour, sending a rude email for only 1 person to see, or having the entire world speak poorly of you because you voiced your opinion?  Look at the children who said horrendous things to the elderly bus monitor?  They received death threats, had their homes vandalized, and their tires slashed.  By giving ground for bullies to stand on, you only perpetuate more and aggressive bullying.  Both of these situations could have been handled better and more maturely.  Instead, violence only begets more violence.  Who will stop the cycle?

Instead, Livingston’s husband posted the email online and her fellow colleagues allowed for this editorial to take place.  Since when does a rude email from a viewer constitute world-wide news?  Is there not an election coming up?  Are there not natural disasters that are destroying homes and lives that deserve that air time?  There are children hanging themselves at the age of 10 because of being bullied relentlessly.  Where are their 4 minutes of air time?  Was the Wisconsin news channel so short on stories that an email takes up time that could have easily been replaced with something far more important?  I think the one thing that truly bothers me is that there are literally hundreds of thousands if not millions of children and teens that are bullied worldwide and yet very rarely do their stories reach us at 6 o’clock.  I really feel since they are the future of this world, their lives and stories matter more and deserve more of our attention.  Maybe instead of giving that elderly woman $700 000, it could have been donated to suicide prevention and awareness.  This whole event is so shameful in my opinion.  Look at these two video’s below and tell me who needs their story told more?  Jennifer Livingston or Jonah Mowry?

 

“An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.” – Ghandi

Did the Judge go too Far?

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I was on Yahoo today and saw an article about a 13-year-old girl who lured a 3-year-old at a McDonald’s in Utah and cut her hair.  Now the Judge in the case gave her 30 days in a detention centre and 276 hours of community service.  However, the Judge told the mother that if she cut her daughter’s hair in the courtroom, he would shave off 150 hours.  The mother did it and has now filed a complaint because she felt “intimidated” by him.  She’s also stating that her daughter was strip searched at the detention centre and now cannot sleep by herself and cries often.  The girl’s 11-year-old accomplice also had to have her hair cut, but she was allowed to go to the salon.  The 13-year-old, Kaytlen Lopan, claims that it was the accomplice, not her that cut the hair.  However, Miss Lopan is also in trouble due to some prank related grievances against another girl.

Now when I saw this article a few things came to mind.  Firstly, at 13, I would never have pulled a stunt like this.  Not only is it wrong to wrong a child, but the sheer fear of my parents was enough to keep my on the straight and narrow.   As my parents would so graciously say, “my butt would never see the light of day again.”  By the sounds of this case, this mother has very little control over her daughter’s behaviour as this is the SECOND time she’s been in trouble with the law, but the nerve of Miss Lopan.  Why would you cut a little girls’ hair?  What purpose would that serve?  I highly doubt the 3-year-old attacked and triggered the attack.

Secondly, as a mother, if my Princess ever, ever, everrr, lured a little girl away from her parents and cut her hair, not only would she be grounded until she died, she would have to apologize to this little girl and her parents, I would make her volunteer at a hair salon sweeping her hair, and finally I would shave her head.  Drastic, I know.  But so is cutting a little girl’s hair maliciously.

I have a few choice words for this mother.  I think by her filing this complaint against the judge sets a poor example for her daughter.  The mother agreed to cutting the hair.  Now, if you genuinely thought your daughter was innocent, would you really cut her hair?  People have choices.  She could have said no and made her daughter work the full amount of hours.  But she CHOSE to cut it to get her daughter to work less and now she’s complaining.  And as for the girl saying she was scared, I hope she was scared.  Those detention centres are not meant to be five-star hotels.  They are meant to teach lessons.  Lessons like cutting a little girls hair is not OK.  I think by the mother letting her go lightly is only teaching her daughter that it is ok to do this stuff, because in the end, her mom will try to get her off.  If it were my daughter, her hair would be cut and she would work and serve every minute she was sentenced to.  People make choices.  But there are consequences to those choices.  It’s a life lesson.